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Posted by Candice Watters on August 19th, 2009 at 2:40pm
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s we prepare for the upcoming national broadcasts, it occurred to me that after nearly two years of blogging here, it's time for a blog face lift. You know, if blogs had faces. And as with a real face lift, I'm working to make this as seamless as possible!

The biggest part of the change will be moving the blog from Ning to Typepad. Though most of this change will be behind the scenes, changing our hosting service will mean a big change for our community.

A Central Gathering Place—Rather than having lots of small groups and individual blogs, we're going to shift into one large WPB group on Facebook. This will give everyone a central place to gather and connect and hopefully, make our conversations more engaging for more women and thereby, more fruitful (more on this to come).

More Integrated—Get Married is one of several projects I'm focusing on now. By moving this site to Typepad, I'll be able to more easily move between our several projects that include my other book (co-authored with Steve): Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies, and the Boundless Line blog (and Boundless.org webzine). I'm hopeful this will make it easier to blog more often and cover a few more topics, as well as make it easier for you to be involved in our other ministry efforts.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the changes as they roll out over the next two weeks leading up to the first broadcast on August 31. Feel free to email me.

Posted by Candice Watters on August 4th, 2009 at 2:04pm
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Posted by Candice Watters on July 6th, 2009 at 1:51pm
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In my younger years, I often dismissed any type of cosmetic surgery (for both men and women). But then I kept hearing stories about how some (mainly women) were "much happier" after having cosmetic surgery done. For example, this one lady at my church had a stomach staple done a few years ago. She lost over 100+ pounds and has since been married for a couple of years. I don't believe that she's naive enough to deny that the surgery helped her find a mate....

If there are traits that make someone more desirable, is it sinful to pursue those? We tell both women and men to wear clothes that look good on them. Some men and women wear perfume/cologne in part attract the opposite sex. So even though surgery sounds extreme (which it is), I wonder why that should be taboo.

Posted by Candice Watters on July 3rd, 2009 at 1:50pm
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Posted by Candice Watters on June 8th, 2009 at 8:21pm
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lmost every Saturday, my walking partner and I meet at the local river walk and hike our way through its twists and turns for about an hour. It goes rapidly because we use it as a time to talk and catch up with each other’s life. When she’s not there, I usually opt for something less involved, or worse, no exercise at all.

There’s something about partnering that helps me. On this long and often difficult walk of singleness, I’ve found that the same principle applies. A few years ago God laid it on my heart to seek a prayer partner. Serendipitously, my friend Ayesha was looking also, and approached me with the idea of becoming mine. She and I had been friends since college, when we met on a semester long trip to Central America. She was great fun, and I marveled at her unique relationship with the Lord. She introduced me to creativity in worshipful dance and mystery in prayer. I found her down to earth and non-religious approach to God refreshing.

As our relationship grew, we began to share our hopes and dreams, failures, successes, and especially our desire for strong men of God to become our husbands. She told me about her faith chest, where items bought or acquired for marriage are stored as an action of faith before God. I created my own, dropping in a book or two, a man’s clothing item given me from someone who thought I was already married, and wedding magazines.

Whenever I share a shameful story of failure or weakness, Ayesha never judges me; she simply encourages me to keep trying. Not only that, she always has my back. Once when she visited my home, a harmless yet slick neighbor we called “Gator” was trying his best to get me to come talk to him alone. Ayesha stood giggling beside me, pretending to misunderstand his cues for her to exit and give us privacy, she quietly refused to leave my side. He finally gave up and walked away while we entered the house laughing like girls. She’s even boldly called to check on me when I’m spending time with male friends she knows I may have trouble setting boundaries with. She gently but consistently keeps me accountable by reminding me who I am and whose I am.

Today, we commit our requests to God on a weekly basis. When my faith falters, she continues to model her trust in the good things our Father will one day bring into our realities. In return I enjoy offering back her gifts of friendship and sisterhood.

I am better because of her. We all need an “Ayesha” in our lives to push us along, laugh and cry with us—someone to bundle our supplications up with and send them on to Heaven.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: 
If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9,10).

Two are better than one. Even when you’re single.